“Then our sons in their youth will be like well nurtured plants, and our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace”. (Psalm 144:12 NIV)
I was recently studying the scriptures when I found the latter part of the verse above and got really interested in it. I meditated and researched on the meaning and significance of the word Pillar. And I found out mind blowing things which will be discussed throughout this piece.
What exactly comes to a person’s mind when he/she hears the word ‘Pillar’? The first thing that came to mine was Support, Strength and Beauty. Pillar, according to the Oxford Dictionary, is a tall vertical structure of stone, wood or metal used as a support for a building, or as an ornament or monument. We can deduce from this definition that a pillar is strong, reliable, supportive, and beautiful. Going back to the scriptures that said, “…and our daughters will be like pillars carved to adorn a palace”. I asked myself, why the women, why wasn’t it the men. Then I realised that no other gender can handle this position/responsibility better than the woman. Wow! This shows that every woman is strong, supportive, powerful, reliable and beautiful. If you as a woman haven’t started functioning in this capacity, it either means that you feel you can’t be it or you don’t know you can be.
God has called Women (Daughters, Sisters, Wives and Friends) to be pillars of support to whomever we come in contact with. Carving a pillar isn’t fun, the process of being strong, supportive and beautiful ain’t easy, but God has given us the ability to function in that capacity as A Pillar of Adornment. This starts with a close, deep relationship with God and completely aligning ourselves to His Will and He’ll work in us according to His pleasure. It entails dying to self to be able to function fully in the capacity of a pillar in our homes, offices, organisation, business place, church or wherever we find ourselves.
Having looked at the definition and significance of a pillar, lets also find out the meaning of Adornment. An adornment is something that adds attractiveness to a thing. In other words, a pillar adds attractiveness to a body, home, organisation, church etc.
These words, ‘pillar’ and ‘adornment’ have been used to define women. This should tell us that women are strong, powerful, reliable, supportive beings that enhances beauty! Wow! As a woman, if you have this knowledge of who you are, you can attract people to you. We need to understand that our strength makes us beautiful, without our support, the world can’t stand! Wow, that’s powerful!
A pillar is also visible. Women should be seen, we shouldn’t shy away and go into hiding. God has given us all we need to excel. Discover them and go do exploits! Women also have the ability to enhance the beauty of others but we can’t do this if we don’t have true beauty in us. You can’t give what you do not have, they say. We need to constantly focus on our inner selves, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit which is of great worth in God’s sight.(1Peter 3:3), not on the outward appearance only. Cos real beauty comes from the inside to the outside. Proverbs 11:22 MSG puts it this way, “Like a gold ring in a pig’s snout is a beautiful face on an empty head”. Its as bad as that.
For wives, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones”(Proverbs 12:4)
A kind hearted woman gains respect (Proverbs 11:16)
Stop waiting for people to affirm your beauty before you can ‘feel’ important and beautiful. Already know that you are the most beautiful woman on earth. A highly sought after woman, fearfully and wonderfully made by God.
Stop waiting for people to do your thinking for you. Discover you area of strengths, sharpen them by getting more knowledge. Be proactive! Be independent! You can do ALL things through Christ that gives you the strength.(Philippians 4:13).
You don’t need approval to do what you know is right. Once you are being led by the Spirit of God then you are at the centre of God’s Will. This gives you confidence in God and stops you from acting confused and unintelligent. Make yourself so reliable and supportive that without you, decisions can’t be taken in your sphere of influence. Above all, let your dependency come from God alone and not man. Let Him be your source cos He’ll always sustain you. Be willing to pay the price so that you can function in your place as A PILLAR OF ADORNMENT.
Live and Stay Beautiful.